Is Chivalry Dead?

The following is a featured post written by Meghna (from

“An extremely insightful and novel approach to the idea of chivalry.” – Arthur

I read a blog post about chivalry a few days ago and it got me thinking, is Chivalry dead? I didn’t think so. But what really got me thinking was the value of chivalry in this day and time. Forgive me if I’m wrong, but chivalry was ‘created’ so to speak, because of the vulnerability and the lack of power that women had in the older times. We had no say in the world matters because the men didn’t think that we had the capability, and so chivalry was born. As Wikipedia so kindly states:

“The Knight’s Code of Chivalry was a moral system that stated all knights should protect others who can not protect themselves, such as widows, children, and elders. All knights needed to have the strength and skills to fight wars in the Middle Ages; they not only had to be strong but they were also extremely disciplined and were expected to use their power to protect the weak and defenseless.”

Weak and defenseless? I think not. Pick a city, any city and you will see at least one woman proudly asserting herself and her capabilities in the big and scary man’s world. She will not only demonstrate work of value but also do the job looking absolutely gorgeous. So much for sitting back and looking pretty, eh? In this age and time, women are more than capable of taking care of themselves. Whether they are single moms, or full time business women with demanding families, no one can say that women do not have power. Even in homes, it is the custom for the women; the wife and/or the mother to have the final say in household matters. While they have a predisposition to being physically inferior to their male counterparts, the women of this generation make the effort to reach the same level. Talk about leveling the playing field.

In other words, the only difference between men and women in this century is that the women carry babies and men ….don’t. (Someone obviously forgot to give the seahorse species the memo.) Okay there is a lot more to the biological story than that but it is the basic essence of the matter.Women are no different than men. 

So why do we need chivalry? It is nice, as a girl, when a boy holds the door open for us so we can walk in ahead of him, when they let us steal their seats so they can be seated comfortably, when they stand up for us in face of a conflict, when they pay the bill on dinner-dates and when they make the first move (the last one doesn’t really fit in with chivalry – I got carried away.) But the point is they don’t have to any of those chivalrous actions. Most girls of this generation, and forgive me again if I’m overgeneralizing, do not think less of boys when they don’t do these actions.

Chivalry is lovely as it shows respect and good character and its sweet behavior to display on dates but do we really need someone to hold the door open for us anymore? We know, heck, the whole world knows that women are not the vulnerable little creatures that we were decades and that we are more than capable of taking care of ourselves.If not dead already, Chivalry is definitely taking its last painful breaths. The murderers of this attribute are not the men as we thought before, but the women. Our dynamically changing social status has brought us to a point where the men aware of our increasing capabilities and they subconsciously know that they don’t need to be the strong hardy men to take care of us anymore.

As a girl who wants to end up becoming one of these successful women in the future, I’m not going to miss chivalry. Rather, I’m going to take pride in knowing that I’m part of a generation whose men are strong, and whose women are equally strong.

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