Our lives, our story. In the life we live, we seem to think that we are the protagonist… the hero… the person who can while no one else can. But, are we really the heroes in our stories? Or is that what we have come to believe because of the environment that surrounds us?
We live with a misconception that we are special and that we are the anomalies to a pattern that fits everyone else’s life. This ‘idea’ is seen primarily in gamblers and addicts. Gamblers gamble, as they are driven by the single thought that they can prove probability wrong and that they can be the one in 10 million that wins (for poker), when in actuality they are more likely to be killed by lightning as the probability for that is one in 1.6 million (which is still rare, but you get what I’m saying). For addiction, people likely start – drugs, alcohol, smoking, or whatever it may be – with the delusion of how they are the exception to addiction and that they can stop when they want, while everyone else can’t. However, we all know that these people who start off strong and adamant about being unique and different, end up becoming addicts in the end.
Even though it might seem as if I want to make it seem as if we aren’t special, what I am trying to say is that this tendency of holding ourselves higher than others leads to extremely high expectations, and also a big, painful fall when we reality dawns upon us. This leads us to the question: where has this delusion about what our lives should be transpired from? The answer is mass media.
In movies, tv shows, cartoons, and even comic books, we are bombarded by stories of a protagonist that does the impossible and proves everyone else wrong. Though there may be exceptions to this, most movies – especially the ones that make it big in box office – follow this style, where the hero always prevails, beating the odds. It’s because of this that we have become so intent on proving ourselves, making ourselves stand out, and be the person that no one else is or can be.
So if our belief of being “the one” is because of our over exposure to mass media, what does that mean for us and the lives we live? It doesn’t mean that all is pointless and that we will fail tasks that seem too big. It means that even if we do fail, it’s not our fault. We shouldn’t be crushed by failure, we should accept it as just something that happens, pick ourselves up, learn from the experience, and move on to try to accomplish the impossible all over again – because that is how our story is supposed to go, and not like James Bond in 007 movies, where he will always win and never die.